Neil J. McCarty
February 13, 1921 - November 12, 2020
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Neil Joseph McCarty, 99, died peacefully on the morning of Nov. 12, 2020 at St. Paul Elder Services with Pat, his wife of 74 years, by his side. Neil was born in 1921 in Kaukauna, WI. He attended Kaukauna High School (Class of ‘38) and graduated from Notre Dame University, South Bend, IN. He served…

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Phyllis Dintenfass left a message on December 8, 2020:
Pat, I only saw the notice of Neil’s passing today. I’m sorry for your loss. You had a wonderful, long time together. May you and your family have wonderful memories to sustain you.
Kirk and Kris Schutte left a message on November 28, 2020:
Dear Tom, You know my husband Kirk and me as Sparks Band fans. We were so sorry to learn from our good friends the Loders of your father's recent passing. We both know from experience that it's very, very hard to deal with the loss of a father, and this pandemic makes everything even more difficult. I hope you and your family will take comfort in happy memories of your father's long, productive and eventful life. With deepest sympathy, Kirk and Kris Schutte
Tara Halstead left a message on November 23, 2020:
Dear Pat and family, I wish to express my sincere sympathies to you and your family. I’ll never forget all Neil did to help with us at St. Michael’s church in Jacksonport. I’ll miss his smile and words of wisdom. He was such a loving man, husband and father. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sarah (Phelan) Dix left a message on November 18, 2020:
Margaret: I'm so very sorry in the passing of your father. He was an icon within the City of Kaukauna, and beyond. I worked for the McCarty law firm for ten years. Take care of you, and remember all the good times that you had living on WI Avenue, and Door County.
James T LaChapelle left a message on November 17, 2020:
John We are so saddened to hear of the news of your father. Our thoughts are with you and your family and sending our wishes for continuing recovery to your mother. Jim and I remember the summer we spent at the farm with you and Jane and all our girls. It was such a lovely time and your parents were so welcoming, and wonderful to our girls. Such special people. Love Jim and Elaine LaChapelle
Peace of mind is a call away. We're here when you need us most.
John Femal left a message on November 17, 2020:
I am so grateful to have known Neil and the entire McCarty clan. Neil so thoughtful, kind and smart - he made you feel special with his attention. I have so many cherished memories of my time at "the farm" up in Door County - one of the sweetest summers of my entire life - and felt so accepted by Neil and Pat and the entire family. Grateful to Neil for his work in Door County around land use issues as he worked to preserve the natural beauty of the area - a natural beauty that I had grown to love as well. I cherished the poem Neil wrote following his visit to Oregon with Pat and Teresa, about taking him down the rapids of the McKenzie River - his creativity made life richer for us all. I so appreciate the time I had with Neil and for his long life that enabled so many to get to know and enjoy Neil. My heart goes out Pat and the entire McCarty clan.
Hank Schultz left a message on November 17, 2020:
My condolences to all my McCarty cousins. I loved Uncle Neil very much and enjoyed our frequent phone conversations over the years. His warmth, kindness and humanity were touchstones for my life. I will miss him greatly.
Paddy & Sarah Crowe Inis Oírr left a message on November 17, 2020:
Comhbhrón ó chroí leat Mary agus don clann illug ag an ám fíor bhrónach seo. Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anim uasal.
Michael H. Schultz left a message on November 17, 2020:
I am so sorry for your loss. Uncle Neil was a great guy. The service was a moving tribute to your families life.
Sarah Pooler left a message on November 17, 2020:
To my dearest Pat and to each of Neil and Pat’s children, grands and great grands. I have known and loved your parents for over 46 years. They have been like an extra set of parents to me. I will miss Neil...his kindness, patience, sincere interest in others, his brilliant mind and his endless and eternal love for Pat. Thank you for sharing both of them with me for all these years and much love to all of you. You will be in my prayers. Most sincerely, Sarah Pooler
Ruben Wittman left a message on November 16, 2020:
My deep condolences to the whole family in your loss. I pray you find peace and comfort, especially in these times when it is hard to gather and grieve. I just wanted to say I am thinking of you all. Especially Laurence, Teresa, Margaret, and Paul. Ruben
JOHN M CONNOLLY left a message on November 16, 2020:
Neil McCarty was a great human being: kind, compassionate, very smart, judicious, a real community man and a person of deep faith, successful both in business and family life. I would have trusted my life with him. I first met Neil, Pat and their many children in March 1968 when I came to Kaukauna with the Eugene McCarthy antiwar presidential campaign. They housed and fed me for 10 days, and I just fell in love with the McCartys. In 1969 they traveled to New York to participate in my wedding, where Neil served as one of the lectors. Since those days we stayed in touch as much as possible, and many visits to Wisconsin and – on their part – to Massachusetts followed, not least when granddaughter Selene enrolled at Smith College, where I taught. My wife Marianna and I are saddened at Neil’s departure, and we send our condolences to Pat and the entire family. We feel blest to have known him.
Bernard Hupperts left a message on November 16, 2020:
Dear McCarty family, just thinking of Neil, and all of you, brings smiles and memories galore. Joe, one of the first students I met in Kaukauna, brought me in touch with his parents; how lucky I was. Neil (and Pat) was one of the generation of leaders I was fortunate to have as mentors during my years at Kaukauna High School. I truly enjoyed challenging conversations with Neil and following his family through the years. My prayers for Neil and for you all.
Cindy Marks & Michael Martens left a message on November 15, 2020:
Neil, Pat, and all of their family Were a great inspiration to many of us. May he Rest In Peace. Condolences to the family.
Kieth & Cid Van Dyke left a message on November 15, 2020:
We have been good friends with Neil and Pat in Door County over many years. Having enjoyed countless meals and get togethers and meetings we are saddened by the loss. I worked with Neil on the board of the Door County Land Trust and admired his expertise and assistance in establishing their success. In later years we would stop by in Appleton to visit Neil and Pat at their apartment. We will miss him immensely and love to you Pat. Our prayers go to both of you. Kieth & Cynthia Van Dyke
Peggy Joyce & Jack Rosenberg left a message on November 15, 2020:
We had the joy of meeting Neil during Teresa & Juvenal’s wedding festivities in Door County. What a fabulous large family he and Pat raised. We also have a wonderful poetry book based on one that he recited from to his family which, inspired me years ago to read more poetry. May Neil rest in peace. Our love and prayers go out to all the family.
Michael Weaver left a message on November 15, 2020:
You have my deepest sympathy and condolences with Neil's passing. It was my pleasure to work with him as a director at the Bank of Kaukauna. I retired after 40 years at the Bank as a V.P. His advice and counsel over those years was highly regarded. I always held him in the highest esteem. Neil was a highly intelligent, but compassionate human being. He also possessed a great sense of humor. It was great fun to listen to him dialogue with John and Jim Brogan. I also visited him and Pat many times as a volunteer at St. Paul's. He will be sorely missed. May he rest in peace, and may the good Lord bless all of you.
Jean Fisher left a message on November 15, 2020:
So sorry for your loss, esp during this time when it was impossible to see him. I only knew him in the last 10 years but what a kind man he was. He left quite a mark in the Fox Valley community.
Jean Fisher left a message on November 15, 2020:
So sorry for your loss, esp during this time when it was impossible to see him. I only knew him in the last 10 years but what a kind man he was. He left quite a mark in the Fox Valley community.
Abigail Llerenas left a message on November 14, 2020:
In loving memory to my grandfather. I only saw you maybe once a year on my trips from California to Wisconsin, and I wish it could have been more. I will always remember your intelligence and kindness, and the blood I share.
Wichmann Funeral Home & Crematories left a message:
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.
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