Kodye Fassbender
December 10, 2000 - May 7, 2017
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The Mission Church
314 N. Appleton Street
Appleton, WI 54913
(920) 882-1010 | Map
Friday 5/12, 3:00 pm - 4:00 pm
Wichmann Funeral Home
537 N. Superior Street
Appleton, WI 54911
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Thursday 5/11, 4:00 pm - 8:00 pm
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The Mission Church
314 N. Appleton Street
Appleton, WI 54913
(920) 882-1010 | Map
Friday 5/12, 4:00 pm
Wichmann Funeral Home
537 N. Superior Street
Appleton, WI 54911
920-739-1231 | Map

Kodye Michael Fassbender, age 16 of Grand Chute, passed away on Sunday, May 7, 2017 as a result of suicide. Our home is now void of Kodye's smiling face and quick witted personality. The world is now a bit dimmer. Kodye will forever be remembered for his avid love of the outdoors, his passion for…

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Connie Braun left a message on May 12, 2017:
Nycole, I am sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Lance Huntington left a message on May 12, 2017:
Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine how hard this must be for you and your family. I can only hope that your grief subsides leaving the loving memories of Kodye that you and your family will always share.
Janet Lawrence left a message on May 11, 2017:
What a moving testament of Kodye's heart. Many suffering from depression and mental health issues will be helped by those seeking support in part by education and the families desire to spread awareness. My prayers for each family member and friend who loved Kodye. May God comfort you in your time of loss until reunited again.
Marian Look(Mrs. Look gr. 5) left a message on May 11, 2017:
Your former St. Edward family is keeping you in our thoughts and prayers this week. We are praying for your family at Morning Prayer each day. God's peace be with you all.
Todd left a message on May 11, 2017:
I'm so very, very sorry to hear of your loss. My family has been touched by suicide as well. You will be in my prayers, God bless.
Peace of mind is a call away. We're here when you need us most.
Randy & Sarah Van Camp, Amanda & Allison left a message on May 11, 2017:
Mike, Lisa and Nycole, We are so very sorry for your loss. Allison lost a very close friend a year ago to suicide and we know the anguish felt by her and his friends and family. May God be with you during this difficult journey. Know we are all with you in prayer.
Alaina Boncher left a message on May 11, 2017:
I'm so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I lost multiple uncles to suicide and wish there was more help available. Just know now that he's at peace and he's no longer battling with himself. Now he can watch over you and keep you safe until you meet again.
Jean left a message on May 11, 2017:
God bless this family. Wrap your loving arms around them and give them comfort and peace that only You can give. My dear Lord hear these cries from so many who have been touched by suicide thought, act, deed directly themselves, or in family, friends, neighbors, and classmates. Please Jesus help them to hear of Your Goodness and Hope. Fill them with Your Love that can penetrate the deepest and darkest sadness and pain and cast Your Light there. Clear their minds and hearts of despair and hopelessness. Guide those who encounter us to minister, counsel, and support during difficult times. My Dear Lord, thank you for everything we have been given. Let us celebrate the life of Kodye and take comfort knowing he is in paradise with You now and eternally. In Jesus name I pray.
Char left a message on May 11, 2017:
Im so sorry for your loss. My daughter left me 4 months ago today and i feel your pain. May he rest quietly sending many hugs ti you
Deb Fick left a message on May 10, 2017:
I am so sorry for your loss . We lost our son 1 1/2 years ago. He died at 22 from heart disease . I pray for some peace for your family . God Bless
Evie Kettner left a message on May 10, 2017:
My prayers are most certainly going out for Kodye's entire family and friends. Mike, Lisa& Nycole I. have thought of you many times over the lost years we've had. I remember when Kodye was brought into Mr & Mrs K's.I am so very sorry for another tragic loss in your life. Never forgot you. Love Mrs K.
Bob Bohr left a message on May 10, 2017:
Condolences goes out to the extended families. Kodye, you will be missed
Clare and Lou Miller left a message on May 10, 2017:
Do not personally know you but my prayers are with you for comfort and peace. Thank you for bringing this very painful message about suicide awareness because it could happen to any family at any time.
Anne B. left a message on May 10, 2017:
Many thoughts and prayers..Kodye will live forever in your minds and hearts.
Samantha ehm Scheibe left a message on May 10, 2017:
Kodye I'll miss you! Say hi and give gpa and Tony hugs for me! We love you!
Bob W. left a message on May 10, 2017:
My condolences. I will hang this on the Cross. My Father in heaven can deal with this much better than I.
Laurie left a message on May 10, 2017:
Deepest sympathy to you all for your devastating loss. A sincere thank you for sharing your story. As a retired death investigator of 20+ years suicide calls were the most difficult of any. Sending prayers to you.
Todd& Diane left a message on May 10, 2017:
Condolences
Kari Niemann-Fuss left a message on May 10, 2017:
I'm so sorry to hear about Kodye. I cannot say I understand how you feel. I can say that I am the parent of 2 teenagers who struggle with depression. They have both been suicidal, and both have made attempts. Mental illness/depression runs in our family. I often feel guilty that I have passed this on to my children. I know what it's like to "wear" the fear of losing a child. I carry it with me always. Wondering, always wondering. I'm so sorry you had to find out what it is like to lose a child. I wish you peace
Ted and Diane left a message on May 10, 2017:
You have our deepest sympathies. Sending love and prayers!!
Peace of mind is a call away. We're here when you need us most.
Laura Horne left a message on May 10, 2017:
Prayers for Nycole and the Fassbender family. This is a beautiful tribute to Kodye. Love to you all.
Troy left a message on May 10, 2017:
So very sorry for your loss! Your honesty will hopefully help many although it won't take away the pain you are feeling,I hope knowing that many people are holding you in their thoughts and prayers will somehow bring even the slightest bit of comfort.
Gma D. left a message on May 10, 2017:
So sorry for your loss...you have my sympathy in this time of need. I did not know your son but my great granddaughter did, she is at North High also. He sure was a wonderful young man. He is your angel now...God bless you all.
Debbie left a message on May 10, 2017:
So sorry for your loss. God bless. I can't even imagine how heart broken you all must be. Prayers
Betty jo Balzar left a message on May 10, 2017:
Leaving a prayer for peace for your family in this time, and the future as you move forward. Hold tight to each other and move forward as a family. I do not know you, and yet I sense your love for this child of yours. Thank you for calling it out as a suicide, we need to have more conversations to help our children through these times. Blessings sent your way.
Jo left a message on May 10, 2017:
I am truly sorry for you loss. May God grace you memories of you beloved family member Kodye. May God wrap is arms around him to give him comfort. My sincere wishes to your family in this time.God bless and keep your family strong!
Dawn & Mitch Bessette left a message on May 10, 2017:
There are no words that can fill the void. Just know that we send our most heartfelt condolences and hope you can celebrate Kodye's life through your memories every day.
Holly Lambrecht left a message on May 10, 2017:
My sincerest condolences to all of this young man's friends and family. This is just heartbreaking.
Kimberly left a message on May 10, 2017:
Kodye you are soaring with Angel's, prayers for your family , friends and people you have left here on Earth. God.be with you in your time of sorrow.
Britney left a message on May 10, 2017:
I do you not know you or your loved one, but I am so so sorry for your loss. I commend you for being open about his death. I lost a friend to suicide 16 years ago. We need more awareness, especially for those struggling that contemplate suicide to see the other side past the depression. The pain in your heart will never go away, but you will learn to live with it and embrace the happy memories you hold.
Love, Tom & Connie Ryan left a message on May 10, 2017:
Mike, Lisa, & Nycole, Our thoughts & prayers are with you in the loss of Kodye here on this earth. We can't even begin to imagine the suffering you are going through. May God hold you in His hands & carry you through with His blessings.
Kimberly Wilkins-Austin (Milwaukee County DA's office) left a message on May 10, 2017:
I am so sorry for your lost. As an Aunt that's dealt with a nephew that's attempted suicide; I can imagine how difficult this is for your family. Thank you for the Hopeline information. Your family will be in my prayers.
Kristi Kempen left a message on May 10, 2017:
We are so saddened by the news of Kodye's passing. These times are so difficult for the loved ones left behind. The "why", and "what if's" are so incredibly hard to process. Please know our love, thoughts, and prayers are with all of you. Love Leo & Kristi Kempen
L. W. left a message on May 10, 2017:
Thank you for your openness and honesty regarding your son's death. Suicide is so difficult and when I lost my son, I found people afraid to talk to me for fear they would say or do the "wrong" thing. My prayers are with you and your family.
Lisa Dorschner left a message on May 10, 2017:
Unfortunately I have never had the pleasure of meeting this young man, but it breaks my heart to see such young people in such despair. Kodye and I did have one thing in common and that was we share a passion for wounded warriors. I am making a donation to Wounded Warriors on his behalf. The obituary was beautifully written. God bless you all!
Linda left a message on May 10, 2017:
My MOST SINCERE sympathy! I didn't know you - or your family - but I lost my 14 year old nephew about 7 months ago. I know your pain. May the happy memories you have help you through this extremely difficult time!
Sandra Hawley left a message on May 10, 2017:
I did not know Kodye, but my heart goes out to the entire family. I am Carol Hawley's (Tom Fassbender) sister.
Concerned mother left a message on May 10, 2017:
Don't know you but any suicide or attempt is near and dear to my heart. So sorry for your loss stay strong. Surviving from sons attempt and we struggle daily
The Gall Family left a message on May 10, 2017:
We are so sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to all.
Donald & Vicky Gagne' left a message on May 9, 2017:
We were so very sorry to hear of Kodye's passing-please know you all are in our prayers. May God watch over all of you especially at this time.
Peace of mind is a call away. We're here when you need us most.
mary left a message on May 9, 2017:
So, so sorry for your loss. I did not know Kodye, but lost my daughter in 2000 to suicide. She was 14. I do know your loss. look to your inner self, your relatives that have passed & what ever spiritual entity you need to go forward. Blessings to the family
Dawn tuchscherer left a message on May 9, 2017:
My heart goes out to you all.words can not express my sorrow for you.hold each other a little closer.you two are very strong,you will manage to get through this somehow,one day at a time.our prayers are with you
Stacey Otten-Wyngaard left a message on May 9, 2017:
I am truly sorry for you and your family in the loss of your son. My heart pours out to you and your family in this time of soorow.
Amy Kierzek left a message on May 9, 2017:
My deepest sympathy on your loss of Kodye. He was a good friend to my son, who often would talk about their conversations - hockey, racing, politics, fishing. They had a lot in common and Bryan really thought highly of Kodye. He will be sadly missed and always remembered. I will keep all who loved him in my thoughts and prayers.
Lynn Chernich (Fiestedt) left a message on May 9, 2017:
My heart aches for you all, so incredibly sorry for your loss. Many prayers being sent during this most difficult time. May you find peace and comfort in your memories
Sue Kozlovsky left a message on May 9, 2017:
I nm so very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family. I can't image the question and sadnessyou are all going through. So very sorry.
Cindy Buelow left a message on May 9, 2017:
Prayers to family and friends that knew Kodye. May God comfort you during the days ahead. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Lisa Srenaski left a message on May 9, 2017:
I am so sorry for your loss. Kodye was much to young to leave this earth. I can't even imagine the pain this is causing for those close to him. I want to thank you, Mike and Lisa, for being open about Kodye's suicide. Too many families aren't and try to keep mental illness private. Thank you for helping ro raise awareness. May you find some peace and comfort in knowing that your openness may help someone else receive help. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.
Susan left a message on May 9, 2017:
Prayers and Love to your family at this time ...our family went through the same type of loss 6 years ago..they are not here, but never forgotten..Take Care of each other...God has Kodye in his arms now...
K. Stevens left a message on May 9, 2017:
I did not know Kodye or family, but saw his obituary on facebook via a friend. I was very touched by your choice to be honest and forthcoming with the reason for his death. I volunteer for NAMI and had a daughter that twice attempted suicide. The world is so difficult for some of our kids. I am so sorry for what you are going through, and thank you for your being open. This will hopefully bring more attention to the issue. People need to know the prevelence of suicide; how real the threat and the continual need for services addressed to getting kids to share their pain and accept help. I am so so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Denise left a message on May 8, 2017:
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the questions and sadness you are all going through. May all the people that love you help to guide you through somewhat dealing with all the heavy-hearted times ahead. So very sorry.
Wichmann Funeral Home & Crematories left a message:
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.
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