Dennis T. Oudenhoven
February 9, 1950 - November 24, 2009
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Dennis T. Oudenhoven, 59, passed away at home Tuesday afternoon with his family at his side after a seventeen month battle with brain cancer. He was born February 9, 1950, the son of Ted and Elaine Oudenhoven. He grew up in Green Bay, attending St. Agnes Elementary School and Sacred Heart Seminary. He graduated from…

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Jeff Eggert left a message on December 1, 2009:
Dear Oudenhoven Family, My sincere condolences for your loss. Mr. O was an aspiring figure at Xavier both in the classroom and on the track. I never had an appreciation for Engligh till I was in his class. And out on the track when we thought we could run no faster or no farther, he knew we could, and then we did. He was an inspiration all around. Jeff Eggert Class of '02
Joe Rechner left a message on November 30, 2009:
Dear Oudenhoven Family, I was one of Denny's first students at St. Mary Central(Class of '76). I will always remember him as a warm and caring teacher that all of the students loved. I sincerely enjoyed following your journey through the 'Denny O' blog. I only wish that the journey would have ended in a different place but comforted that he was loved by so many people. Goodbye Mr. O - I am so glad that our paths have crossed and hope that we will meet again! Warm Regards, Joe Rechner
Cindy A. Winkelman left a message on November 30, 2009:
Dear Carla and family of Dennis, My heart goes out to you for your personal loss; our own academic and friendship loss cuts to the core. How much moreso your pain, I can only guess. I know that your faith and the supreme example of Dennis's faith in Jesus Christ will see you through this most difficult and trying time, and even provide comfort to your soul. I will miss collaborating with Dennis in the English department and his clever wit in writing up our department meeting notes. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to have worked with Dennis on the Reading Improvement Committee. A part of Xavier is missing, but we have an advocate in heaven. Our prayers now are for you for healing and comfort. Our Lord Jesus Christ gives us His assurance on the Sermon on the Mount that those who mourn will be comforted. We trust that He will do just that for you. Blessings, Cindy Winkelman Xavier High School English Dept.
Judy (Schuh) Collins left a message on November 30, 2009:
Carla, Chip and the rest of the Oudenhoven family, My deepest condolences on the loss of Mr. O. I only recently learned of his condition and was so saddened to hear about it. He was by far the greatest teacher I had at Xavier and I remember the most from his classes, especially all of the classic works we read and interesting way he presented them. Carla you were a fantastic dance team coach as well. Your family had such an impact on my high school years. He will be greatly missed but remembered by all. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Judy (Schuh)Collins Class of '90
Kris Jungen left a message on November 29, 2009:
Dear Carla, My deepest sympathies for your loss. You and your kids will be in my prayers and thoughts. He was a wonderful teacher and man. Kris Jungen
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Tina Koyen left a message on November 28, 2009:
Dear Carla and family, Though my tenure at XHS was brief, I had the privilege of getting to know Coach O. He was one of my favorite coaches to work with as I knew he always had the students' best interest in mind. I admired his calmness and integrity. He was a man that led through example and quiet understanding. Coach O not only impacted the many students' lives, but everyone he met. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Tina (the Trainer)
Mike and Corey Greely left a message on November 28, 2009:
Carla and family, and extended family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and Dennis. Sincerely, Mike and Corey Greely
Barabara Asmuth left a message on November 28, 2009:
Carla, it was wonderful to see you surrounded by family and friends on Friday night, your words spoke to my heart and I hope I will remember them and live by them forever. You said simply "this is what you do when you are in love". Dennis was a wonderful man, it is true that he will be remembered as a gentle, kind man who seemed to lived life to serve and he set an awesome example to the students he taught. I am proud to have known him, been taught by him, taught with him, and have him coach my daughter. Your family will continue to be in my prayers.
Sue & Gary Simonsen left a message on November 27, 2009:
Dear Carla and family, Our prayers are with you and the family at this time of great sorrow. Our memories of Denny are matching all the wonderful things being remembered by those who knew and cherished him. Unfortunately we are in Racine today to visit relatives and will not be able to attend the service, but know we are keeping you in our thoughts. May the Lord grant him the joy he has earned!
Fr. Bob Rhyner left a message on November 27, 2009:
Carla, Ted, and all, My prayers are with you and for Dennis. I watched Dennis in grade school and afterward from a distance. He was a tremendous person. I admired him. Love & Prayers, Fr. Bob Rhyner
Kenneth j. Zahorski left a message on November 27, 2009:
Dear Carla and other members of the Oudenhoven family, Dennis took three of my courses while he was a student at SNC. I remember him as one of the finest students I had during a 40 year career as a college professor; he was bright, conscientious, affable, and remarkably dedicated to learning. Further, he exhibited enviable integrity and a strong moral character. I read, with great pride, of his many accomplishments as an educator and am confident he left behind a legacy of love and generosity of spirit. For an instructor, having a former student die is like losing a member of your extended family. I am very sorry he has passed from our lives at such an early age, but many at a far more advanced age have accomplished far less than Dennis. I know you will miss him tremendously.He was an exemplary human being. With warmest wishes, Ken Zahorski, Professor Emeritus of English
Michael & Mary Resch left a message on November 27, 2009:
Please accept our sincere codolences at Denny's passing. We know how hard it is to see a loved one go, but know that he is now with God in heaven. Although we weren't real close friends, I was a classmate of Denny's at Sacred Heart Seminary and St. Norbert College and played basketball with him for a few years. I regret not getting to see him before this. Will you let me know where Denny is being buried and I will visit his grave when I am able. God bless all of your family at this time of grief.
Mike and Jeanie Vogel left a message on November 27, 2009:
Dear Oudenhoven family, Our prayers and sympathies are with you. Oudy and I were buddies in our teens and mid 20's. I was his roommate when we both landed jobs after college in the valley. He stood up for our wedding. My job took me out of the area and I regret I did not rekindle that friendship when we moved back. If the best point guards are judged by how they make every player better, then Oudy is one of the best persons I have ever met because he made everyone nicer when he walked into a room.
Jim and Nancy Faust left a message on November 27, 2009:
Dear Carla and family, Our deepest sympathies are with you. All three of our children were blessed to have been taught or coached by Mr. O.. He always struck the right balance between challenge and encouragement, helping them each to persevere and stretch to new goals, but also cheering them on when he saw the effort. Mr. O was a gentle and quiet teacher who led by his example in health and in the difficult struggles of these past two years. Our family has been touched by both of you and inspired by your love for one another. God bless you and please know that you are in our thoughts and in our prayers.
Mike and Jodi Lorrig left a message on November 27, 2009:
Chip/Jennifer and family. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Mike and Jodi Lorrig (AAC DEEP Group)
Dennis and Patti Long left a message on November 27, 2009:
Dear Carla and family, Our thoughts and prayers are with youduring these very difficult times. While we were not close in recent years my memories of Denny go back to our days at Sacred Heart and playing buckets for the BCI team after college. Denny was a true leader even as a young man in high school. On the basketball court, in the classroom or just being one of the guys, Denny was always the quiet leader that others follwed, looked up to and admired. Our daughter was lucky enough to have Denny as a teacher and experiance some of the special qualities that made Denny a leader in the classroom, making a difference in the lives of the many young people. We know that Denny is now at home in heaven where he belongs. We will always hold dear the friendship and fellowship we enjoyed. Our hearts go out to you and our prayers are with you.
Barbara J Hipp left a message on November 27, 2009:
Carla and family...My deepest sympathies for your loss of a great man...Mr O was a genuine human being who always showed respect and dignity when he taught. I will always remember him as the "Gentle Giant" who gave me the courage to continue on in life even when things got me down..To have been blessed by his presence and his teaching will never be forgotten...I will keep you and yours in my daily prayers.. Barbara J Hipp Class of '82
Laura (Grapentin) Kauth left a message on November 27, 2009:
Dear Oudenhoven Family, My most sincere condolences go out to all of you during this time of sorrow. Mr. O. was one of the most compassionate teachers I had growing up. He lead by example and taught his students to appreciate life and education. He will be greatly missed by all who were educated by him. Laura (Grapentin) Kauth Xavier Class of '96
Lisa Richter (Rother) left a message on November 27, 2009:
My condolences to the family. I was a student at Xavier the 1st year he was a teacher there and remember him well.
John Brandt left a message on November 27, 2009:
My deepest condolences to the entire Oudenhoven family during this difficult time. Mr. O created such a positive atmosphere during my days as a student in his English class and made it fun especially when it came time to deliver a speech. A truly remarkable man that led by quiet grace and calm. Many Thanks for having the opportunity to be graced by his teaching. Take care and God Bless, John Brandt
Peace of mind is a call away. We're here when you need us most.
Dave and Judy Simon left a message on November 27, 2009:
To Carla and family, Please know we hold you special in thoughts and prayers. Your husband/dad/grandpa was an awesome man. Heaven now has a GENTLE GIANT blessing its halls. He was a man you could never say a negative word about and words of praise failed to express just how special he was. Our children always sang and still do sing Mr. O's praises. How blessed they were to have his influence in their lives. We will always treasure our Labor Day boat ride. What special time with special people. You will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. We pray you feel the Lord wrapping His comforting arms around each of you. His peace and Our love, Dave and Judy Simon
Stacey Kitts left a message on November 27, 2009:
Carla, and family. My heart, and prayers go out to you. From the short time I attended Xavier, until recently spending time with you at FVHO, it has been a privilage! God Bless you today, and always.
Jennifer Jones left a message on November 27, 2009:
Mr. Oudenhoven was one of the best teachers I've ever had. I still have my 'Norton Anthology of Poetry' in my living room, and I fondly remember analyzing Supertramp lyrics in Honors English. :) My deepest sympathies to his family. Jenny Jones (Xavier 1984)
Missy & Donna left a message on November 26, 2009:
Carla - Watching you and Denny in the past, especially over the past 2 years, we have seen an ideal example of the definition of 'in sickness and in health', and how actions speak louder than words. You have both been a shining ray of sunshine in so many peoples' lives, especially ours. Our lives have been so blessed by having your presence in it. Missy and Donna
Josh and Michelle (Horn) Hermus & Family left a message on November 26, 2009:
Our deepest sympathies on Mr. O's passing and our prayers to family and friends in hopes you find comfort and understanding. Mr. O was truly a remarkable man, one who could relate to the students he taught like no other we have had. His exemplary teachings of literature were overshadowed only by his teachings of life and love for the Lord. We are blessed and privileged to have known Mr. O and are joyed that his courageous battle with cancer has been rewarded with eternal life. God bless!
Ed Byrne left a message on November 26, 2009:
Dennis and I were both students at St. Norbert College, graduating in 1972. We often studied together on the second floor of the student union and had many enjoyable conversations. Later, as a sports writer, I saw him coaching. He was a mentor and friend to the kids lucky enough to have him as a coach. One of the few real Renaissance men I've come across in this journey.
Becky Ackermann & Family left a message on November 26, 2009:
Oudenhovens - Our deepest sympathies go out to your family. Hoping you find comfort and strenth knowing so many people are thinking of you all and keeping you close in prayer.
Aaron Mayer Family left a message on November 26, 2009:
Oudenhoven Family Mr. O changed my outlook on life and taught me many things. Whether he was in the classroom, on the court, or on the track, he always led by example. He was definitely one of a kind and will be greatly missed. I know he would be shaking his head right now if he saw how I wrote this.... My deepest sympathy goes out to all of you. Aaron Mayer '98
Dave Brown left a message on November 26, 2009:
Chip, I am so sorry to hear of your dad's passing. He represented everything good about working with young people. I always admired the way he treated and worked with his athletes everytime he was at the Lawrence track. Your family is in our prayers. Dave and Kathy Brown
Janet Vissers left a message on November 26, 2009:
Ted, sorry for the loss of your son we will be thinking of you , Mary Pasterski's daughters Janet and Kaye
Karen Derouin left a message on November 26, 2009:
Thinking of your family. Karen (Stankevitz) Derouin
Nancy and Joe Drusch & Family left a message on November 26, 2009:
There are no words to express the tremendously positive impact that Mr. O has had on the lives of our four children as their teacher and mentor at Xavier. His example and superb manner cannot adequately described. Maybe if he had taught me I would have been able to write the way my children can and give him the credit he so richly deserves! We know he is now with our Lord and Saviour and is supremely happy. We grieve with his family and support them as they live on in his memory. Thank you to them for sharing him with us.
Phil Haslanger left a message on November 26, 2009:
I was at Sacred Heart Seminary at the same time as Dennis and remember well the great spirit he brought to life there. While we have not been in touch over the years, his memory still resides within me. For those who knew him and loved him over the years, I hope his memory burns brightly for you and that you feel the love and care of all those around you.
philip brux left a message on November 25, 2009:
I sure heard alot about Dennis through the golfing buddies, including Bob Kabat. I attended seminary as freshman and sophomore from 1966 thru 1968. Never really Knew him as he was a couple of years older than me. My sympathies to the family and his friends.
Jim Clark left a message on November 25, 2009:
Carla and family: I feel so blessed to have gotten to know such a person as Denny. We go way back to when I was a freshman at Sacred Heart Seminary. At 5'5" I was jealous of his height but more impressed with his "down home" nature. In all of his achievements he could've built a wall around him of accolades. But, instead, he took the time to be a mentor for me even though he was in the class year ahead of me. I feel that through a sort of "osmosis" I received so much, because he never pointed things out, but rather, included examples of a positive nature. It may feel like a sad day for me, but my memories and the work I have done in my profession are a reflection of what I was shown by my friend, Oudy. He was true class, and our world may be dimmer, but heaven has gotten a lot brighter! Thank you for sharing this special person with me. Jim (the other Torchy) Clark
Donna Fahrenkrug left a message on November 25, 2009:
Carla, Chip, Shannon and Dave, My heart goes out to all of you at this time. Denny will always be remembered as one who touched so many lives through his gentleness, through his persistence in trying to develop strong writers and critical thinkers, and for being a master teacher. Denny told me once that he loved teaching because he felt there were always things to improve on. Each year was a new challenge in trying to get it right. He was a mentor to many. Denny will never be forgotten in the Xavier community. I will miss him.
Kasey R. Smith left a message on November 25, 2009:
Coach O, You were a true leader for students, coaches, staff and administration at Xavier. You will live forever in our hearts as an example of character and grace.
Tracy Righi-Smith left a message on November 25, 2009:
Dear Oudenhovens, I offer my deepest sympathies to your family. Dennis was a man of true integrity and grace. I consider myself honored to be able to say I was one of his esteemed colleagues. Xavier's English department will surely miss him. God Bless, Tracy Righi-Smith
Gino, Nancy, and Jana left a message on November 25, 2009:
Words cannot express the sorrow we feel for your loss. There is no way to measure the many, many lives Mr. O enriched through his teaching, his loving guidance, and his warm praise. Denny made this world a brighter place and we are all better people for having known him. He will remain an inspiration to those of us fortunate enough to have been touched by his life. May the comfort and love of family and friends surround you at this difficult time. With deep sympathy,
Bill Peplinski left a message on November 25, 2009:
Coach O., Thanks for being a great person, an outstanding teacher and a wonderful coach. You have taught four of my children and they are much better students and individuals because of you. I know that you are with our Lord and Heaven is now a better place. God bless your family and give them strength. Bill
Wichmann Funeral Home & Crematories left a message:
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.
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